Addictions come in many forms. Drug addictions, shopping addictions, sex addictions, gambling, and countless other compulsions plague our society. You name it. If there’s a name for it, someone somewhere is probably addicted to it.
Problem? Absolutely! Why? Because an addiction is a symptomatic trance, or an attempt to feel different, but without a real relationship or real human connection.
This is why 12 step programs and group therapy can work extremely well to help people develop secure attachment bonds with other human beings. Furthermore, psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and counselling relationships with an individual can also greatly enhance addicted persons control over his or her life.
More specifically, an addicted individual can most certainly begin to replace their addictive destructive tendencies, within a secure and safe therapeutic relationship. It does take time. Many addictions seem to serve the illusion that a quick fix, or instant gratification, can somehow lead to lasting happiness. This is a lie, and needs to be drastically challenged.
So-called addictive personalities, are inadequate explanations for what cause addictions. Why? Well first of all, let’s say out of 100 addicted people that I have worked with over the years, all have had very different personalities. Personality genes just don’t cut it. It seems to be problematic earlier attachment bonds and experiences with primary caregivers which seem to pave the way for switching off emotionally and thus relying upon addictive behaviours, substances, or even destructive relationships as misguided attempt to regulate how we feel.
Fortunately, addiction counselling in Melbourne is available. And if you can’t get too brighton Melbourne, or prefer to work remotely, you can have online counselling for addictions via Skype.