Sexual problems can be embarrassing and emasculating. And the performance anxiety that often results only makes the initial issue worse. But you’re certainly not alone — and it’s possible to get help. Preoccupation with premature ejaculation can put a big strain on your relationships. Over time, arousal can turn to feelings of shame, resentment, self-loathing, loneliness, and even depression. What do you have to lose?
It’s important to rule out any medical causes for your premature ejaculation. If your doctor can’t find anything physically awry, it may be time to look into sex counselling.
The therapists at Bayside Psychotherapy have years of experience dealing with this sensitive problem. Some of the approaches our practitioners use include neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, psychodynamic psychoanalysis, mindfulness therapy, dream interpretation and Buddhist psychotherapy, among others.
Call Bayside Psychotherapy on (03) 9557 9113 to find out if we’re able to help you. Your call is completely confidential, and there’s absolutely no obligation.
Self-hypnosis may also work well when used in conjunction with counselling. You can download our Premature Ejaculation Self Hypnosis recording from our website.
Frequently Asked Questions
PE is when a male ejaculates during sexual play or intercourse sooner than he or his partner would like. Although common among men, it's a cause for concern if the problem happens frequently.
you may be experiencing premature ejaculation if you:
- Always or nearly always ejaculate within one minute of penetration
- Are unable to delay ejaculation during intercourse all or nearly all of the time
- Ejaculate without the need for penetration
- Feel distressed and frustrated, and tend to avoid sexual intimacy as a result
Many men experience PE from time to time. Whether you’re feeling a bit under the weather or particularly aroused, it’s a normal sexual glitch. But if it happens every time you engage in sexual relations, it’s best to take action. The more time that goes by without treatment, the worse the problem is likely to get. Naturally, anxiety tends to increase when you expect things to go wrong, making things more likely to go wrong. If the problem is not in the plumbing, it must be in your head.
That’s where we come in. Like any sexual complication, premature ejaculation can have deep and tangled psychological roots. Techniques like NLP, hypnotherapy and mindfulness are designed to (in different ways) identify and manipulate patterns of thought and reaction so that they can work for you, rather than against you. Learning meditation and relaxation techniques may also help you derail anxiety before it derails you.
We don’t believe in band-aid solutions. Our therapists have expertise in counselling, psychotherapy, hypnotherapy (traditional and Ericksonian methods), NLP, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and more, so we are able to tailor a treatment plan to your personal circumstances. Throughout the treatment process, your therapist will work with you to ensure you’re comfortable and progressing toward your goals.
We also recommend our downloadable self-hypnosis recording for premature ejaculation so you can continue working through your issues wherever you are.
For this condition, in particular, rushing treatment is not ideal. You know that too much haste in the bedroom creates problems, and so does trying to change too quickly in therapy. Patience is critical. No two courses of treatment for premature ejaculation are the same because no two men have the exact same sexual history — or the same personality.
Your treatment duration will depend on you and on the progress you and your psychotherapist make together. Some people may find that they notice results quite quickly, while others may benefit from a deeper investigation of the underlying causes of the PE. In either case, it takes a lot of courage to take the first step to seek help. And that’s often enough to give you a boost of hope and confidence from the outset.
Note Whilst we will do our best to assist you, we rely on our clients’ full commitment to and participation in the treatment process to optimise results. Although some of our therapists work with people presenting with this condition, no guarantees of any outcomes can be made.